The other day, I overheard a conversation between two people I know fairly well. It was déjà vu, all over again...as Yogi Berra said. (I think)
These two repeat the same ol', same ol' every time they talk with each other. It's always a re-hash of all the bad family memories they have. In truth, they have more than their fair share of 'bad' family memories. Most of us do have, at least, our 'fair' share of similar stories. But those two seem to 'live' in their old bad stories!
I got to thinking about why I don't indulge in the same fruitless conversations.
And I think I figured it out. It's not that I'm smarter or nicer. It's not because of all those 'self help' books I've read-although I have been tremendously helped by all of them. It's not because I don't have any bad memories. I do. And I could, I guess, spend more of my time concentrating on those memories.
It's simply because what I concentrate on is something that brings so much joy to my life that I just can't be bothered with anything that doesn't.
I haven't always been that way, I assure you.
But today, and every day now, I have INTENTION to experience those things which bring me joy. For me, most of the time, it has to do with painting. This blog also brings me joy. But when it began to feel like a responsibility...a duty...instead of a joy....I stopped blogging until I was inspired to start again.
I have come to believe that our first obligation to ourselves is to ensure that we feel as much joy as our hearts can hold....as often as possible! It isn't somebody else's obligation....it's all ours! If what you're doing isn't creating joy for you, maybe you should consider just not doing it anymore, if it's at all possible. And, I think it's possible more often than we allow.
I think, now, that I've developed a habit of joy. I didn't just wake up one day like this. It isn't something that falls on you like rain, ya know?
So......
If you find yourself dwelling on past or present 'negatives'......
......and if you are needing some more joy in your life,
make you some!
Have the INTENTION, each and every day, to consciously provide yourself with at least one joyful experience. Then do it some more!
Until one day, you have so much joy in your life that you want to talk about that...instead of those old bad memories.
I told my son the other day that I would rather be an old woman who bores people to death talking about how excited I am about painting, than to bore people to death talking about all my aches and pains and other woeful things.
I am grateful to know that true joy comes from ME. I am the creator of my joy.
HALLELEUJAH!
and
AMEN!